At certain points during your life, you might find yourself taking inventory of where you are. You might find yourself facing a difficult decision or at a crossroads, a place where you are asking deeper questions. Questions like “I thought I would have been further along in my life by now, what’s next or even why me, why can’t I seem to change my life’s circumstances?”
When you start evaluating your life, it’s ok to ask these questions to yourself- that can actually be a good thing. No really, it’s ok not to be totally fulfilled in life or 100% clear on where you are going. Even feeling uncertain- it’s all common. It doesn’t have to be your new normal forever though. This is what we call accessing our Gangsta Secret #2- Appeal your life. Did you know you get to appeal your life whenever you want to, regardless of your circumstances?
You can! Ok, so listen up.
To get to a new place in your life, it will require you to transform. And I know that sounds like a big word, and in many cases, the word unreachable comes to mind….How about the word change? In order to get to somewhere other than where you are, it will require you to change.
Yes you, not the people around you, not your life’s circumstances. Just you. This is where accountability comes in!
You might already know that some form of change is necessary, but were uncertain about the type and magnitude of change you are willing to commit to. And may not have any idea where to start.
So let’s start with the question “What do I have to do to start to transform my life?”
The answer is coming up shortly. First let’s understand what is standing in your way, creating all of that uncertainty and fear around this “Transformation” word in the first place.
What’s standing in your way is FEAR of the unknown. You might be interested to know that many people would rather stay stuck in circumstances of pain rather than facing the unknown. Because we are familiar with the pain. Ever hear of the statement, “Better to stick with the Devil you know than the devil you don't know?” Well, that way of thinking will keep you stuck and it is all because of FEAR.
Ok, so let’s tackle the question of what to do now. The first thing you need to do in order to take the steps to a whole new you is to ensure your success. To decide that you can change. To decide that change and transformation is possible for you. To face the fear and say out loud “I have the ability to take control and change the circumstances of my life”
Let’s re-cap…
- What’s standing in your way? You and FEAR.
- The first thing you need to do is to decide you want to do it and you can do it.
- Lastly, believe in yourself. Self-doubt, fear of the unknown, and procrastination is a recipe for staying stuck in the same old same old.
Make the decision that you are worth it, you are capable and cut off from all other possibilities. You can reach your goals and dreams and no longer live with compromise and meritocracy. You can plant the seeds, and allow the rain to be the water while your transformation takes place. It takes patience and time to get you from where you are to where you want to be. Those April showers will bring May flowers, so allow the process to unfold. Remember it took you this long to get to where you are, allow the natural process that happens once you make the decision.
It’s your time, we are here to help you. You are just one thought (and one decision) away from a whole new life!
Stay Gangsta!