Change Management Business Coaching Brooklyn Style: Setting Boundaries to Take Back your Space
Written by Kristi on March 10, 2025
Change Management Business Coaching Brooklyn Style: Setting Boundaries to Take Back your Space
Change is hard. Question- When is the best time to implement a change within your mindset, at home, at work? Wherever your brain just took you, I’m sure it showed a day in the future or not so distant future where you had the “time”. The truth is that you will not find the time. Time must be created. We know changing or even facing the fact that it is time for change is challenging. The biggest challenge isn’t the change itself—it’s the way we negotiate with change – that is what causes all the pain. Growing up in Brooklyn, I can distinctly remember hanging out on a street corner where I would meet the same group of friends. There were other groups who met on other corners and rarely would these groups mix. Until someone decided to take over a different territory. These guys didn’t come in and negotiate, they took over and that was that. Yesterday you showed up on corner 1 and the next day you showed up on corner 2 – or suffer the consequences. Seems harsh, ripping off the band aid like that, and that is exactly what is needed to create a true and lasting change and transform into the person, leader, parent, CEO or friend that you want to be.
Wait, I hear you thinking ok it’s that easy? And my answer is no it is not easy, there are simple steps to follow with a clear blueprint. The ease is created when you surrender into the unknown. When you follow the proven blueprint for success and stop wishing and thinking you will figure it all out, or that you will get there some day. Or eventually it will work out. Create a clear boundary right now between that old, what we call voice of your Inner Mobster that keeps you stuck in negotiation and indecision and brings out a new voice, What we call the voice of your Inner mentor Trust and Guidance to follow the process, even when and especially when it doesn’t make sense. Whether you are a successful organization or you run a mom and pop shop or you are an executive in a firm or a leader in any way, the most important thing you can do is surrender to the fact that not only you don’t know it all, but that you simply do not want to figure it all out. This is the process I went through and it freed me up from so much pain. Pain caused by negotiations, flip flopping back and forth and then eventually feeling defeated through change. Remember the one constant we all have is change. Transformation is change by design, not by default. You can create your future, we can share the blueprint so you sit back, implement and succeed.
It actually create most of our challenges by negotiating with the change we say we wish to be or we implement in our work environment. That inner conversation that goes back and forth, trying to convince ourselves that we’ll start tomorrow, next week, or when the timing is perfect- that is when I’ll really implement the changes, policies, procedures and transform my space. The truth is, that negotiation can take forever. But here’s the reality: transformation doesn’t happen through endless debates in your head. It happens when you take action, step into your power, and create clear boundaries—internally and externally—that support the life you want to live.
At Life Coach Brooklyn, we understand that your mind is your most valuable real estate. And like any valuable space, it needs structure, organization, and protection. That’s where Transformational Gangstas come in. We don’t just help you think differently—we help you reorganize the way you process information, shift patterns, and create boundaries that actually work. Whether at home, in your relationships, or in your career, self-loyalty is the foundation for unlocking the life you deserve.
Why Boundaries Are the Key to Mental Freedom
Most people think of boundaries as walls—things that keep others out. But the truth is, boundaries are gateways to freedom. When you establish healthy boundaries, you’re not shutting people out; you’re making space for what truly matters. Strong boundaries help you take over more of your mind space, ensuring that you’re in control of your thoughts, emotions, and energy, rather than letting the outside world dictate your inner experience.
Here’s what happens when you don’t set boundaries:
- Your time and energy get drained by people who don’t respect your limits.
- You feel overwhelmed, overcommitted, and stuck in a cycle of burnout.
- You start resenting relationships that once felt fulfilling.
- Your personal growth and dreams take a backseat to everyone else’s demands.
Sound familiar? The good news is, you can actively change the patterns of your brain by taking control of the conversation inside your head.
Internal Boundaries: Mastering Your Inner Dialogue is Self-Loyalty
Before you can set boundaries with the people around you, you need to establish internal boundaries. These are the mental and emotional rules you create for yourself that help you stay focused, resilient, and self-loyal.
How to Set Internal Boundaries
Stop Negotiating with Change – If you’ve been telling yourself, “I’ll start tomorrow,” realize that tomorrow never comes. Make a non-negotiable commitment to taking action today.
Reframe Negative Self-Talk – Every time you catch yourself thinking, “I can’t do this,” replace it with, “I am learning how to do this.”
Limit Mental Energy Leaks – Identify thoughts that drain your energy (self-doubt, overthinking, perfectionism) and redirect your focus to empowering beliefs.
Create a Mindset Ritual – Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or breathwork, establish a daily habit that keeps your mind aligned with your goals.
External Boundaries: Protecting Your Time, Energy, and Space
Once you’ve mastered your inner world, the next step is setting boundaries with friends, family, colleagues, and even your environment.
How to Set External Boundaries That Work
Clearly Define Your Limits – Get crystal clear on what you will and won’t accept in your relationships, workplace, and daily routines.
Communicate With Confidence – Instead of over-explaining, simply say: “I appreciate the offer, but I can’t commit to that right now.”
Enforce Consequences – If someone repeatedly crosses a boundary, follow through with action (e.g., limiting interactions, removing yourself from toxic situations).
Respect Your Own Boundaries – Don’t just set limits for others—make sure you respect the standards you’ve created for yourself.
When you set clear boundaries, people will either respect them or reveal why they shouldn’t have access to your energy in the first place.
Breaking Free from the Cycle of Insanity
Albert Einstein is often credited with the saying: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If you find yourself stuck in the same loops—whether in relationships, work, or personal habits—it’s time to break free.
At Life Coach Brooklyn, we help you break the cycle by rewiring the way you think, process emotions, and take action. Instead of staying in a pattern of overthinking, procrastination, or self-doubt, we help you create a practical, actionable plan that leads to real transformation.
Why Self-Loyalty is the Ultimate Game Changer
Most people are loyal to everything and everyone except themselves. They prioritize obligations, expectations, and external demands while neglecting their own dreams and desires. But what if you flipped that? What if you made self-loyalty your priority?
Our Self-Loyalty quick hacks and coaching framework ensure that:
✔️ You put yourself first without guilt.
✔️ You create a life filled with Faith, Love, Peace, and Ease.
✔️ You stop seeking permission and start taking action.
You don’t need more motivation—you need a new way of thinking. That’s what we help you build at Transformational Gangstas.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you’ve been wanting to try something different, this is your moment. Take those first steps away from the definition of insanity. Stop doing the same thing and expecting a different result—take control of your life, your time, and your future.
Set up a free discovery call today, and let’s create boundaries that work—so you can finally live life on your terms.
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🧘♀️ Mindfulness Meditation Brooklyn & Breathwork: Explore our mindfulness meditation sessions, specifically designed to foster honesty and self-acceptance. Being present with your thoughts and feelings is a powerful practice. These can be found within our app as well as weekly live meditations on Tuesdays at 6PM EST and Wednesdays at 11am.
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